Getting divorced? Here are tips on how to heal and move on from the book " You Can Keep the Damn China!' And 824 Other Great Tips on Dealing With Divorce" (Hundreds of Heads Books, www.hundredsofheads.com, $13.95), straight from people who've lived it:

  "I have been happier since the divorce than I ever was before. I never got to know myself in marriage, and what I have discovered is that I am a really interesting person! I don't think I ever would have known so much about myself if I had not been divorced. Like, who would have known how much I like to travel, or how much I like margaritas?"

  G. H., Chapel Hill, N.C.

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  "Let yourself get angry! When I got divorced, I was sad and depressed, but if you don't access your anger it causes even more depression. A friend of mine took me out to a driving range one day and said, "Hit those balls!" It helped me to get some of my anger out. Find what works for you; you could hit a punching bag at the gym or pound chicken while you cook."

  Sharon Naylor, Madison, N.J.

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  "The biggest change in myself is a feeling of adventure and independence. There is a whole new life to live."

   G.D., Chicago

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  "I always think of all the miserable things that my ex-husband did to me, and I try to recapture those moments in my head. I have a journal in which I wrote down all of his negative aspects, as well as all the horrendous things he did to me, and all the countless lies he told me. When I get to feeling melancholic, all I have to do is open it up, and there is my instant reminder of how truly better off I am."

  Shannon, Detroit

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  "It takes some time, but you will not be truly healed until you can stop beating up both yourself and your spouse for what happened. Once you do that, you will feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off you."

  Colin McDougle, Canfield, Ohio

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  "It probably took me two years before I was over my divorce. Early on you get to the point where you might stab your ex through the heart if you have a dagger nearby. But forgiveness is crucial to healing."

  Bea Betters, Poland, Ohio

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  "I recovered from the trauma of the divorce by going back to school to study one of the fields my ex-husband excelled in: I did better in it than he ever has. There is nothing better than beating out your ex."

  Saralyn, Chicago

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