Married? Here's some advice on your wedding from the book "How to Survive Your Marriage" (Hundreds of Heads Books, www.hundredsofheads.com, $13.95), straight from people who've done it:

  "I strongly encourage people to have the kind of wedding that they want to have. It's hard to resist family pressures, but after all it's your wedding, not theirs! My wife and I were both married before, each in traditional church weddings with about one hundred people in attendance. That hadn't worked out so well for either of us, so we decided to do something completely different the second time around. We started thinking about an inexpensive destination wedding and honeymoon for just the two of us because we only had a few thousand dollars saved for both the wedding and a down payment on our house. In the end, we chose a wonderful wedding/honeymoon combination at Walt Disney World in Florida. We were married at the happiest place on earth. What a great way to start our new life together!"

  _ Michael Reich, Hellertown, Pa.

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  "The one thing I wish we had done at our wedding was create a professional video. Not so much as a memory for me and my husband, but because I think our daughter would have loved to see this event and the time before we were `Mommy and Daddy.'"

  _ Suzanne Willin, Woodacre, Calif.

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  "We eloped. We were both working and didn't have a lot of extra cash or vacation days. The benefit of eloping was that we were in control of our day. We didn't spend a lot of time or money on what ultimately is a fifteen minute ceremony. We spent money on our honeymoon instead!"

  _ Jan Alder, Atlanta

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  "I know there's a tradition about not seeing the bride the day of the wedding, but we ignored that. About thirty minutes before the ceremony started, my husband came downstairs to the basement of the church so we could have a few quiet moments alone together. It was so special to have some private time before the rest of the day was spent with friends and family."

  _ Kelly James-Enger, Downers Grove, Ill.

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  "My wedding was perfect. We had thirty people in a beautiful local inn. An expression of your love has nothing to do with spending $15,000 on a one-day party."

  _ Dan, Helotes, Texas

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  "You have to make your wedding fun. I think in twenty-five years, I'm going to remember most how fun our day was. We had great food, good music and dancing, and all of the people who have loved and cared about us throughout our lives were there to share it with us."

  _ Karen G. Stewart, Palm Beach Gardens, Fla.

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