My kids left for college in the fall, so I've had a few months to get used to things. Now, I'm realizing that my husband and I need to get to know each other again! Advice?

Enjoy it! For now, my husband and I are content to live in a big, quiet house that stays clean all the time. Nobody moves stuff or makes off with it. Nobody criticizes the food we eat. There’s always soda in the fridge and ice cream whenever we crave it. Sometimes we eat dinner while we watch the 10 p.m. news. We read novels, pipe classical music throughout the house, turn off lights when we leave the room. The house smells better without sweaty athletic gear cluttering the hallways. We work late without guilt. We get up before dawn and slam cupboards with reckless abandon. We don’t do laundry much anymore. We go to bed at 9 if we feel like it.

Turn the empty nest into a love nest. Take the time to reconnect as a couple by making a date night once a week, taking an exciting vacation, showering together, or having sex in the house anywhere, anytime. When our daughters moved out, my husband and I did just that. We went through a rediscovery process, learning each other's current favorite things.

I think it helps if you find something to look forward to. And that way you can schedule events that also allow you to spend time with your husband. Whether it's visiting your children or taking a vacation it will keep your mind on something positive. And you'll be surprised to see how many wonderful traits your spouse has that you may have forgotten about. It wasn't until my husband and I ran out of gas on a trip through the Arizona desert that I forgot what a great sense of humor he had. He really got me laughing when he said there was only one bottle of water left in our cooler and he wanted to wrestle me for it.