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manda12
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I want to start a new life without him in it, but they still see him and tell me about his whereabouts-how can I stay friends with them and still start over?
Some of my friends still hangout with my ex. I want nothing to do with him, what can I do?
Saturday, January 19, 2008
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hidlin
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RE: I want to start a new life without him in it, but they still see him and tell me about his whereabouts-how can I stay friends with them and still start over?
This situation is tough, but I think if some of your friends and still close with him it is not fair to ask them to suddenly stop speaking to him. I do think though that you can ask them nicely not to mention his name and maybe for a short while you can do something completely different-like a kind of starting over. Join a gym, a book club, or just go out with someone from your work that you never went out with before. Even a random date can help life your spirits and make you feel as if you can be independent and have a life outside of that old relationship. And do not forget to act confident even when you are feeling nothing close to this.
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
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RE: I want to start a new life without him in it, but they still see him and tell me about his whereabouts-how can I stay friends with them and still start over?
The best thing to do is to respect their decision to still be friends with him and for the next few months or so split your time between them, asking them not to talk about him in front of you. I think that after a good amount of time has passed you should think about if you can be strong enough to go out somewhere where he will be-not to necessarily be friends with him, but to eventually not have it uncomfortable. But this is a good time to start doing something that you always wanted to do. Try a random hobby or take a trip you always wanted to take. Start feeling good about yourself despite this situation.
Tuesday, February 05, 2008
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RE: I want to start a new life without him in it, but they still see him and tell me about his whereabouts-how can I stay friends with them and still start over?
Honesty is the best policy. Tell them what you just told us. Of course you don't expect them to abandon their friendship with him, but you have to. So many times people fail to do what is right for themselves to preserve the feelings of others. It will be rough, no denying or escaping. Of course you will always be chancing a run-in with the ex or hearing a mention of him from a forgetful mutual friend, but as an adult you'll be able to do it, I'm sure. Tell your friends how you feel, give them whole, honest reasons and let them make a decision on how to handle it. If they can't respect your decision to move on and start fresh, you probably don't need their friendship.
Monday, March 17, 2008