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I found an email to another girl while snooping through my boyfriend's computer, and am so furious but dont want him to know how I found out. What do I do???
I discovered something by snooping, now how do I let him know I know?
Saturday, January 12, 2008
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RE: I found an email to another girl while snooping through my boyfriend's computer, and am so furious but dont want him to know how I found out. What do I do???
You need to be sneaky and use reverse psychology on him. You need to say that you heard already, but cannot tell him who told you, and let him somehow admit it without him having to know that you snooped. Or you can just break up with him and tell him that you dont trust him and that he doesnt respect you.
Saturday, January 19, 2008
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RE: I found an email to another girl while snooping through my boyfriend's computer, and am so furious but dont want him to know how I found out. What do I do???
Hmm. Well, little darlin', ya did wrong. Snooping is NEVER a good idea. Even if you have reason to suspect something, snooping only ever gets you here. With knowledge you probably needed but didn't want and no way to vent the feelings this knowledge has aroused. Now you both have dirt on each other. He's been a little too friendly with another chick, and you are the nosy girl who can't leave well enough alone.
No matter how you start the conversation, it is inevitably going to end in an argument. He'll probably start defending himself, maybe even attempt to explain, until he realizes how you came to garner this information. Questions will follow and the cat will be out of the bag. Then you are the one in trouble attempting to defend and explain. It will probably get bloody and neither party will be willing to mop it all up.
My suggestion? You should probably be honest. You both have already broken key rules in the relationship games (Those pesky ones about fidelity and respecting private space...) and lying about it will not help anything. Be right up front with it. Give yourself time to cool your heals. Nothing good will come if you come out swinging. Tell him you found this email.(I would leave out the word snooping...it sounds better) Give him a chance to explain, uninterrupted. Try to listen instead of just indulging. If he doesn't want to talk or explain that should set off red flags that the relationship is already over. Give him the benefit of the doubt. It could be innocent or a one time thing or something totally forgiveable. It could also be the end. But come in willing to hear him out. And be prepared to accept your punishment as well. Don't think you are clean in this ordeal. They've made Lifetime movies out of less agregious sins.
Monday, March 17, 2008