Who, what, and when on taking the plunge from other daters.
Dating? Here’s some advice on relationships and sex from the book “How to Survive Dating” (Hundreds of Heads Books, www.hundredsofheads.com, $12.95), straight from people who’ve done it:
“The decision to not use protection should always be an open discussion, usually backed up with HIV tests. This is not to be taken lightly. Never discourage any open dialogue. If your partner brings something up, hear him out.”
—Anonymous, New York City
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“I always have condoms at home, and I keep some in my car. My generation has grown up with them. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have them in their nightstand. Nobody likes them. But if you understand the issue, you shouldn’t care whether he likes them or not.”
—Megan Ramsey, Plano, Texas
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“It’s the guy’s responsibility to have condoms and the girl’s responsibility to be on the pill if she doesn’t want to get pregnant. When I was dating my old girlfriend and we didn’t have a condom, I’d run out to get one because I knew it was up to me. There was one time I stumbled out of her bed at 2 a.m. so I would be prepared in the morning.”
—C.S., Iowa City, Iowa
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“Don’t make a move on your girlfriend while you are driving. I once leaned over to kiss my girlfriend at a stoplight, and my foot slipped off the brake and I hit the car in front of me. Not only did it not impress the girl, but the people I hit weren’t too happy either. It was a pretty bad night.”
—Bill W., Seattle
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“When in doubt, be aloof. Aloofness has the weird-but-useful property of drawing people to you and then, after coitus, pushing them away.”
—M.P., Miami
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