Moving? Here’s some advice on saying goodbye to your friendsfrom the book “How to Survive a Move” (Hundreds of Heads Books, www.hundredsofheads.com, $13.95), straight from people who’ve done it:

“Don’t have one massive goodbye party, because you end up only talking to people for a couple minutes each and then you have to run off to the next person. Instead, get smaller groups of related friends/family for a series of goodbye activities — parties, meals, picnics, day-trips, whatever. That way you really can connect with the people you’re leaving.”

—S. Coleman, New York City, 4 moves

“When you move away, your friends stay with you and enemies disappear.”

—James Newhouse, Cibolo, Texas, 8 moves

“Don’t take your relationships for granted. You may intend to stay in one place forever, but you never know when you’ll have to pack up and leave. I had lived in North Carolina all my life and had no intention of moving. Then I met my husband, who got a good job in Texas. Suddenly, after 28 years, I found myself saying goodbye to the family and friends I had grown up with. If being separated from them has taught me one thing, it’s the importance of making the most of every moment you have together.”

“Because I find this process emotional, I don’t drag it out . . . I pretend it’s not happening until the last minute. I act as though I’ll see my friends for a long time to come. I don’t give myself time to get sentimental and I’ve usually stopped to think about it only when I’m already on a plane, thinking about my next place.”

—Phil Provart, Toronto, Ontario, Canada, 4 moves

“When I made the decision to move, the hardest part was telling my friends. They were upset, but in the months prior to my moving, we spent as much time as possible together. I don’t think there’s ever an easy way to tell someone you’re leaving, but if you’re upfront and honest about it, it’s a lot easier to deal with.”

—A.D., Harrington, Maine, 2 moves

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